The pointers that I came up with were from my youth and the life that followed. After naming the people who did this to me, and the consequences, I did step 4 with Mark.
Already with the first situation, it became clear that if I would have had only some more self confidence, my life would have gone differently. Now that I experience this- the veil that was covering my life is gone.
Now I have the feeling that I can handle everything, have self confidence and " I am happy to be me".
From this moment on my new life starts.
The new Hans with self confidence and intensely happy.
Han van Rijssen